Pater: My Father, My Judaism, My Childlessness A multi-layered memoir | Purchase at Amazon (available also in Kindle) Barnes and Noble, Book Depository, Goodreads, or ask your brick and mortar bookseller to order.
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In Raanana - Metro Tel Aviv Book Launch
The metro Tel Aviv launch of The Pater book will be held at Habayit Shel Benji on Tuesday March 15.
Tel Aviv-based journalist, Algemeiner web editor and Israel Hayom & Jerusalem Post columnist Ruthie Blum will be in conversation with Elliot
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Liberty Barnes, University of Cambridge sociologist & author:
"Jager has created a new genre of storytelling. Masterfully weaving together autobiography, genealogy, demography, politics, Bible stories, and interviews, Jager explores the cultural meanings of fatherlessness and childlessness in the notably pro-family context of modern Judaism. With fitting skepticism and good humor, Jager shakes his fist at God until he discovers in himself the enduring human qualities of compassion, acceptance, forgiveness, and gratitude."
Not really. Perhaps surprisingly but most of the people we socialize
with have children. The people we feel closest to have kids and we are "invested"
in the lives of their children – especially milestone events. In the old days bar and
bat mitzvahs, now going into the army (most Israelis go from
high-school to military or national service before even thinking about
college) and weddings. Obviously, we have drawn closer to some people and drawn away
from others along the journey of life. In thinking about married friends with
children the key variable has had more to do with their choice of life-partner than
whether the couple has children. Or in the case of a single parent
whether this person is capable of thinking about anything beyond their parental
role -- whether they can relate to others. The self-obsessed, socially tone-deaf, and oblivious bore me -- having nothing to do with how
many kids they have or don't have. Intuitively, our friends has mastered the ability to …